We all carry our personal struggles into our counseling encounters, and unless we are adept with managing them, they can color our thinking, emotional reactions, and behavior with our clients. Self reflexivity is a significant tool in becoming effective helpers. Here we present a model of a Person of the Counselor Training Group that emphasizes learning the intentional use of self as-is, focuses on a structured approach to exploring key issues of personal struggle, developing interpersonal skills at managing them, and connecting them to work with clients.